I just got home from our IVF consultation and all I can think of is – wait, what just happened? Information overload! Props to the doctor and nurse for covering everything and anything but holy shit that was a lot!
What will you do with the leftover embryos? What will you do with them if you die? What if your partner dies? What if you both die simultaneously? What if you get divorced? Will you donate them to research? Destroy them? Keep them forever?
Geez Louise. I went in there feeling so prepared with my list of questions nicely typed and printed out. Luckily the doctor covered 99% of the questions I had on my list without me even having to ask. I felt like everything I’ve been preparing for the past few weeks went out the window in those 30 minutes I sat in his office. I felt like a sponge trying to soak up every last piece of information he was throwing at us knowing as soon as I walk out I’ll forget everything! I better jot this down while it’s still fresh. To sum it up this is our plan:
- When my next cycle begins I will start by taking birth control. Yes, birth control. This allows everything to shut down and gives the medical team control over what my body does in the weeks leading up to IVF. The goal of birth control is to prevent spontaneous ovulation and hormones from interfering with stimulation. The last medication I thought would help me get pregnant was birth control but it makes sense now.
- During the birth control phase I will also be giving myself daily injections of Lupron which prevents a premature LH surge that would cause ovulation of the eggs from the follicles before egg retrieval.
- Stimulation aka multiple injections a day to make lots of follicles (my doctor expects me to make 14-17.
- Shot of HCG to mature the egg in the follicle and get it ready for retrieval
- Egg retrieval – eggs are surgically aspirated from ovaries. This is the part I am most nervous for. Just looking at this picture scares me. Like seriously, what.the.hell. That needle is giant.
- Fertilization – Brandon’s favorite part of this whole process cuz ya know. Well, you know…
- Embryo culture – growin those babies in a petri dish
- Embryo transfer – ideally the embryos are strong enough to last until day 5, if not doing well then transfer on day 3
After consulting with the doctor we sat with nurse who had us sign A LOT of paperwork regarding the care of our embryos and the agreement that we understood the risks of multiples. Yes. We understand.
The best news I received tho was our chance of success given my age, health, and diagnosis. Drum roll please…
For the first time in a very very long time I have hope you guys! Not just because of this percentage but because the wonderful and amazing things people have said to me since “coming out” with our story. The words of encouragement, the personal testimonies of successful IVF, and even the “hey I have no idea what you’re going through but I’m here for you” comments. All of that is what is pulling me through this and for that I am beyond grateful.
Another great piece of news I received was regarding our insurance coverage.
A little bit of history regarding our insurance: our insurance company is generous enough to cover 90% of all the procedures and monitoring but we have been fighting with our prescription coverage to cover the injections. You call one day and they tell you the medications are covered and you call 10 minutes later and you’re not. We ended up not getting coverage for the medications during our IUI. We were lucky enough to get Follistim samples through our fertility center but we had to pay for the HCG injections out of pocket. These medications are extremely expensive without insurance. IVF meds are like IUI meds on steroids – the list is a lot longer which = $$$$. I was really worried over the idea of paying out of pocket for all these medications (we’re talking thousands and thousands of dollars).
Anyways, the good news is that by some miracle of God, everything is covered! I feel like the stars are starting to align for us.
Things are finally starting to go our way. We’ll be starting our journey through IVF in the coming weeks. Stay tuned!